Nature vs. Nurture

The great biology vs psychology debate.

I hated this topic being drilled so much in school when I didn't see any point.  When this topic was presented in school I thought,  that's easy.  It's gotta be both.  Things are rarely so simple and extreme as to lie on one end or the other without taking in some consideration of the other side.

And where does that balance lie?  Where does biology leave off and psychology begin?  I never really cared.

That is until now.

You see, I was at a church meeting last night when Chase decided that he wanted to go up and touch the props that were being used at the front of the meeting.  Since that would be more than a little distracting with what was going on, I refused to let him and we had to leave the room.  I spent the majority of that meeting standing out in the hall and only made it back in long enough to tell the other leaders that I was needing to take Chase home.  (These ladies are REALLY grateful to have me be called to "assist" them believe me.  I am SO much assistance with Chase in tow.  Sense my sarcasm?)

It was walking home... in the dark.... with my arms full of new books from the evening..... along with Chase's toys.... and it being freezing outside ... and 7 months pregnant.... (does it sound as dramatic as it felt yet?) that I started the realize why nature vs. nurture is actually important after all.

I realized this because Chase for some unknown reason decided he had had enough and wasn't going any further.  I reorganized all the stuff in my arms to pick him up and that wasn't what he wanted.  He screamed, kicked, and scratched causing me to drop everything in my arms.  When I let him down, that's also not what he wanted.  He couldn't tell me what he wanted.

I couldn't see any other choice but to pick everything back up, grab Chase and head for home despite the kicking and scratching- so I did.

It was at this point that I started to wonder if this was part of Chase's personality, his biology, his pre-mortal spiritual personality, his age, OR have I trained him to throw these fits.  Did I give in too many times when he has thrown fits?  Could I do anything to prevent something like this in the future by changing my parenting?  Or was this just another one of those terrible two's tantrums that he would grow out of over time?

I maintain my original belief that both nature and nurture are responsible, but where does the balance lie?  Suddenly it seems a lot more important.